One year ago today* I gave away my left kidney. Taking a lap around the sun with only one kidney was everything I hoped it would be.
My body has long been fully recovered. I started learning ice hockey three months after donating; now I play in a beginner league and feel no sign of the surgery no matter how I stretch or sprawl. Besides my scars, which have faded from red to cream, there’s no sign I donated a kidney. I’m staying active, staying hydrated, and feeling great.
My one-year labs show my kidney function is as expected: about 60% of what I had with two kidneys. I gave away the larger one, which put me at about 45% remaining, but then the remaining kidney should have hypertrophied (grown) in response. At any rate, it’s getting the job done.
When I see my test values charted right on the edge of the normal range, I remind myself that my numbers might be concerning for someone with two kidneys but that’s not the accurate scale for me anymore and I’m where I should be.
This is, more significantly, my recipient’s kidneyversary. I still don’t know who they are and I remain satisfied with that arrangement. I hope the kidney is pumping away in good health!
Other donors mention have written that after a while, they forget about their donation. That’s humble, but in truth, it still pops into my head regularly. When the thought arises, it affirms parts of my identity that are important to me (I covered that in in the “how it feels” section of my blog post linked above).
One thing has changed since I wrote that earlier post: the donation never comes up in conversation. Immediately before and after the surgery, I talked about it with everyone. In the months that followed, people would ask me how I was feeling.
But now that it’s not affecting my life, there’s no context in which it arises. Which makes sense, it’s pretty far removed from the regular things people talk about. I can imagine a different timeline where I’m always deciding whether I should mention it, and I’m glad that’s not something I even have to consider. Sounds awkward.
I recently read The Serviceberry by Robin Wall Kimmerer. I believe the book began as this essay. In the essay and book, she quotes a Brazilian hunter-gatherer who has killed an animal larger than his family can eat. Asked how he’ll store the surplus, he replies, “Store my meat? I store my meat in the belly of my brother.”
* this sentence was true when I wrote it, but I’m a day late in publishing.






















